Living Apart Together (LAT) with Vicki Larson
(The Open Nesters Episode 16)
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In Episode 16 we meet Vicky Larson – “Living Apart Together”
“I knew I didn’t really want to get married again. I didn’t see a reason to marry again. But I certainly want a romantic partner. I am one of those kind of gals who enjoys that. But I don’t want him around 24/7.
I want him to have his own place. And that can be a duplex where he’s downstairs and I’m upstairs. It could be a big house where he has his own entire spot. Although that would be the least of the preferences. I just want to be able to have a space of my own, a room of my own (as Virginia Woolf would say) and we can come together when we want, in the way that we want.”
Editor, Blogger, Writer
Professionally Vicki has spent a lot of time studying marriage and relationships. Vicki Larson is an author and has been an award-winning lifestyles editor, writer and columnist at the Marin IJ since 2004. She has worked as an editor in Santa Rosa, Petaluma, Walnut Creek, San Francisco, Napa and Miami.
A native New Yorker, Vicki is a divorced mom of two wonderful young men who happen to be taller than she is now so she’s a lot nicer to them. In addition to a being an award-winning reporter, columnist and editor at a San Francisco Bay Area newspaper, her writing can be found in The New York Times, The Guardian, Aeon, The Washington Post, Role Reboot, the Huffington Post, Divorce Force and the Good Men Project.
Her essays have appeared in the books “Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God: 73 Women on Life’s Transitions” and “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex and Work in Our 40s,” a fundraiser for breast cancer. – Goodreads
Resources for You
The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics
If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn’t look like the next and isn’t meant to last until death, there’s nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that.
The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively.
Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths.
With advice to help listeners decide what works for them, The New I Do acts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century.