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Resources
``You are the known way leading always to the unknown,`` wrote Wendell Berry in a poem called The Country of Marriage. ``And you are the known place to which the unknown is always leading me back.``
Articles and Scholarship
While there is a rich history of polyamory writing and art going back millennia, there is an impressive quantiy of thinking that has arisen in this area over the past 40 years.
Love has many forms, many expressions… as someone once wrote, it “finds a way.” Here we have resources that should help anyone considering the opening of their own nest. No, not a complete list, yet. But with your help, we can turn this into a real library of riches.
Your assignment: send us an email with links to books, podcasts, articles, individuals that you find useful. We will be sure to add them here: Tessa.
ARTICLES
- Esther Perel (Meaningful Communication)
- Living Apart Together (Time Magazine)
- The Magic of Our Paradoxical Lives
- 50 Tips from couples together 50 years
- Open Relationships (NY Times)
- The Basic Need for Sex at All Ages
- Feathering the Empty Nest (NY Times)
- Travelling Solo (Aging.com)
- Overcoming Intimacy Challenges After 50 (Nextavenue.org)
- From Empty Nest to No Nest
- The Attachment Style Quiz (Personal Development School)
- Older Couples Stay Together Because the Live Apart (WSJ)
- The Ethical Slut (Rolling Stone)
- We’re lucky if we get to be old
- Can you Access the Joy and Benefits of Flow in Lockdown? (Psychology Today)
- Make a Mistake? You Grew Your Brain
PODCASTS
- Esther Perel: Where Should We Begin
- Loving Without Boundaries
- Pleasure Mechanics
- The Radio Vagabond
- On Being (Krista Tippet)
- Death Sex, and Money (Anna Sale)
- Unblocking Us (Brené Brown)
- Extra Pack of Peanuts (Travel)
- Rough Translation (Travel)
- Extremities (Travel)
- Normalizing Non-Monogamy
- Speak Sex with Eve
- Sisters of Sexuality
- The Bed Hoppers
- Interview with Tessa and Amir (Sumati Sparks)
BOOKS
- Sexual Personae (Camille Paglia)
- Broken Open (Elizabeth Lesser)
- Vagina (Naomi Wolf)
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The Erotic Mind (Jack Morin)
- Sex at Dawn (Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha)
- Book Sources for Empty Nesters (Stephanie Elliot)
- How We Live Now (Bella DePaulo)
- This Chair Rocks (Ashton Applewhite)
- Going Gypsy (David and Veronica James)
- Passionate Marriage (David Schnarch)
- Designer Relationships (Michaels & Johnson)
- Bolder: Making the Most of our Longer Lives (Carl Honoré)
- This Chair Rocks (Ashton Applewhite)