When empty becomes an opening.


You barely remember your life before it was dedicated to the kids. Now you realize your kids are becoming adults who either are or will soon be on their own. And so will you. You are a middle-aged (or beyond) empty nester, and you begin wondering…

  • How will you write ACT III of your life?
  • Will you be open?
  • Will you welcome the possibilities?
  • Are you going toward your most vibrant, authentic stage of life?
  • Are you curious to discover what’s ahead?
  • Are you in a fork in the road, wondering which path to follow?
  • Separated from your spouse and adult kids and wondering what’s next?
  • Would you like to hear from others who are already writing ACT III?

Open Nester [OP-PIN-NEHST-ERR ] [NOUN]

The Open Nester is any parent/person who approaches their third stage of life (Act 3) open to new ideas and experiences (open mind) and deeper relationships and self-actualization (open heart).



We are the Open Nesters. We are the Baby Boomers and Gen X’ers who reject the traditional roles that our parents played and the empty nest syndrome. We defy the stigma of ageism, ailing health, empty retirement and a passionless sex life. The demographics of this middle-aged population comprise 34% of our population in 2020, and 42% by 2029. As our aging population grows, our lifestyle choices need to expand along with it.

Push Play below to hear from your hosts, Tessa and Amir.

All About Open Nesting
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We hope that our podcast opens a window into what is possible at this transitional and tender stage of life, encouraging you to look beyond the emptiness and toward what this period can OPEN up in your life. Together we explore relationships with our adult, millennial kids in parallel to our own reclaiming a passion for living and a passionate sex life, and so much more. We interview individuals & couples regarding new creative and spiritual journeys, intellectual and physical adventure, new careers & hobbies, intimacy, fantasy and true love, eroticism, and even kink as some of our topics.

Together we explore the journey of re-discovering and reinventing our lives as our grown children leave the nest. We hear about the sides of people that have been left unexplored during a long-term marriage. The mysteries, fantasies and unmet desires and needs are laid wide open at this juncture in their lives. Their empty-nesting chapter in life is anything but empty! It’s an Open Nest, fulfilling, expansive, explorative, and raw. The stories reveal alternative lifestyles and explore how our generation is redefining life on their own terms.

We, for example, have chosen to be in an open relationship, agreeing to ethical, consenual non-monogamy both emotionally & physically, and you will hear from many about their alternative practices—outside and inside the bedroom. As your hosts, in our first episode, we discuss the Opening of our ACT III.


As Open Nesters, we defy the societal norms and cultural expectations. We are older, yes, but we are stronger than ever, we live longer and we live life on our own terms. We are taking risks that reward us with rich relationships and experiences that are OPEN. We model the very best of how life is meant to be lived, with open minds and open hearts.

Where it All Started


Our Thanks!

We want to thank a number of people for making this podcast launch happen. First our incredible & supportive  adult kids. Our oldest son wrote the beautiful theme music for the podcast, our daughter helped with our podcast content development & editing, and our youngest son gives us a big long nod of approval every day and through every cell of his body, as he has been living home during the development of this. We want to thank Miranda Hayman from Audible who actually inspired this podcast.

We send a deep gratitude to our closest circle of friends for their encouragement & love, including Esther Leslie Russell who is a deep and intuitive reader and human, who truly helped us envision our creativity come to full fruition, and who introduced us to the magical and talented PJ Ewing. It was PJ who was truly pivotal in bringing this all together!

Good creative energy and support, family,  & community is something we all strive to create, and is something that has not converged for us until ACT III.  Please hang in there… it will happen when you are open to your path … even if you don’t  yet know where to begin.
We hope our podcast  & the many people we have interviewed serve as a small inspiration. The Open Nesters Podcast.