Eroticize Your Jealousy
(The Open Nesters Episode 8)
After A Divorce for Each… Life Got a Lot Better
In this Episode 8 we meet Thea and Curt. And we explore, among many other subjects, how they have been able to eroticize jealousy.
Co-parenting for Thea. The relationship with her co-parent got a lot better once they separated. The same for Curt. And now his kids are nearly fully grown. Complications. Growth. Exploration. Loving more than one partner. Open Nesting has been rich and wonderful for these to adventurers.
Amidst COVID these two open-minded adults found each other. And they found that polyamory could work for them both. Thea and Curt met in early March – just prior to COVID. And then quarantine. Phone calls. Video chats. “It was challenging, I didn’t know if we had physical chemistry,” noted Curt. “We had never kissed. Never touched skin. Not until summer. But I knew that I wanted Thea. This was the first time that I tried to pursue an additional partner. It sounded fun, but I didn’t know that I would be able to do it.”
And now Curt’s partners know of each other and know each other. “It’s been now without complications, but there has been more love in the household,” said Curt.
Multiple Partners / Logistics / Lots of Love
Thea’s kids are aware of her love and relationship circumstances. Explaining her relationships with her son. That led to them both seeking a new vocabulary to describe monogamy and non-monogamy and polyamory.
Curt has come out to his kids as polyamory in theory, but has never given them any real-life examples. And the pandemic has put much of that discussion on pause. He expects there will be some hesitancy down the line.
Thea and Curt share a fascinating thought that they are better as an Open Nesting couple than they would be as a traditional couple.
Resources for You
Your Resource This Week, A Book: The Ethical Slut
At last a comprehensive, no-holds-barred guide for anyone who dreams of having all the sex and love and friendship they want. Here are the skills you need for successful – and ethical – sluthood, from scheduling dates to handling jealousy, finding partners to resolving conflict, raising children to caring for your health. If you’ve ever envisioned a universe beyond traditional lifetime monogamy, this is the book for you.
Thea read and enjoyed The Ethical Slut. An avid reader, she also recommends: Esther Perel: Mating in Captivity. Also Dan Savage: The Savage Lovecast. And Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan, Cacilda Jethá.