Mental Physical Emotional Space (The Open Nesters Episode 4)
Tessa and Amir Negotiate Their Space
This week the Open Nesters talk separate beds, lingerie on Saturday mornings, business briefs and meditation. They are each highly aware of their needs for time apart while cherishing special time together. It is an ongoing negotiation between the needs of them as a couple and each as an individual. Amir is goal oriented much of the time. Tessa has a degree in Mindfulness. Not exactly oil and water, but certainly territory that demands careful navigation at times.
Yep – just like it sounds. Date night with the 2021 twist of the absence of technology… on, you guessed it… Wednesdays.
In today’s world it has come to that. Tessa and Amir focusing their attention on each other, not the iPad, the radio show, the financial markets, outside friends. Rather the center their energy on enriching their life-long partnership. It is a night of play and enjoyment with just the two of them.
These weekly occasions are about reconnecting, reaffirming, reinforcing the bonds that have been in formation for more than 30 years.
The Concept of Compersion
A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. Compersion can be thought of as a positive emotional reaction to a loved one’s other relationship. The term was coined by the Kerista Commune. [Source: Urban Dictionary]
The Open Nesters fully embrace this concept in a wide range of topics, from exploration of any kind, intellectual, physical, spiritual to the concept of open love and sexual relationships. Compersion is a concept that we will explore in many subsequent episodes of The Open Nesters Podcast.
Episode 4: Setting the Stage
Episode 4 from The Open Nesters Podcast is pivotal in the unfolding of Season 1. Upcoming are experts in all areas of life that will help you open up your life and space including:
- Episode 5: Dating Myself with Erika Obando
- Episode 6: Play is the Way with Shane the Enchantress
- Episode 7: Following the Yes with Joy Okoye
Podcast Episode #4: Physical Mental Emotional Space
Trevor Mulllineaux, LMFT – Becoming Our Authentic Selves
Trevor is both an LMFT and EFT Certified therapist and supervisor. Trevor applies the best researched couples model (EFT), to create healing and transformational experiences for her couples. Step and Blended Family are difficult to navigate! Trevor is an expert, she has co-authored her second book “Blending Families: Merging Households with Kids Ages 8-18”. Trevor works individuals as well to gain awareness of underlying emotions that inform negative patterns of behavior. Trevor Mullineaux Website
Ms. Mullineaux offers up a few case studies related to cross-dressing, polyamory and finding a safe space to share within a relationship. Her extensive family and relationship counseling work helps us understand the incredible importance of trust in a relationship, particularly when one or both partners have the strong desire for personal growth outside of the core partnership.
Some New Resources About Finding Space
People Didn’t Used to Ask for ‘Space’ in Their Relationships – The New York Times
Why Having Space in a Relationship Is Important – Make Me Better
Taking Space: How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship – by Robert Buchichio
Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships.
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