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Best Sex Ever After Menopause (S5 | E193)
with Dr. Carol Remz
[Tessa] In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we dive into the transformative journey of aging gracefully while embracing our sexuality and vitality. As open nesters, we explore the notion that life is full of possibilities beyond the constraints of a traditional empty nest. Our guest, Dr. Carol Remz, an inspiring 80-year-old author, shares her rich insights from her critically acclaimed book, “The Best Sex Ever After Menopause.” We discuss the myriad ways women can reclaim their sensuality after significant life changes such as menopause, chronicling both the challenges and the revelatory experiences along the way.
Sexual Awakening
Dr. Remz candidly recounts her own sexual awakening during her 40s when she remarried and faced the reality of perimenopause, leading to difficulties such as low libido and vaginal dryness. She emphasizes that sexual pleasure is not narrowly defined by conventional intercourse, but rather encompasses a spectrum of experiences that can foster connectivity and joy. This redefinition opens up conversations about intimacy and communication that resonate deeply within our lives.
Throughout our conversation, Dr. Remz highlights important scientific research that shows how our brains evolve during pivotal life stages, including menopause. She discusses the work of neuroscientists who illuminate how transitions like puberty, pregnancy, and menopause can enhance emotional intelligence and self-awareness. This reshaping of our mental framework encourages women to embrace their new identities, deriving confidence and pleasure from age-related changes rather than viewing them as losses.
Erotic Aging
A significant point of our dialogue revolves around the notion of erotic aging. Dr. Remz elaborates on how women can ignite their sexual energy, which may simmer down as hormones decline. She identifies plant medicines such as sea buckthorn and even cannabis as potential allies in reigniting a woman’s sexual vitality and combating discomfort during intimate moments. The conversation challenges societal norms that often silence discussions around aging and sexuality, inviting listeners to expand their understanding of pleasure at every stage of life.
We also touch on the significance of self-exploration and masturbation as key components of sexual health, providing women with essential tools to reclaim their bodies. Dr. Remz encourages women to cultivate self-love and confidence through personal exploration, reminding us that pleasure doesn’t solely arise from another person but significantly from within oneself.
In addition to her personal narrative, Carol shares practical takeaways for enhancing intimate relationships, including the importance of open communication and vulnerability with partners. She urges listeners to view aging not as a decline but as an opportunity for growth and reinvention, fostering joy and connection in both their physical and emotional lives.
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