Playing with the Unexpected

with Laura & Izzy

(Season 4 | Episode 171)

[Tessa] In this episode of the Open Nesters podcast we’re playing with the unexpected!

What a rich conversation with Laura and Izzy!! This is a dynamic couple who embody the evolving landscape of relationships after Laura’s children left the nest. The discussion dives deep into the challenges and triumphs of navigating life in Act 3, exploring themes of family obligations, autonomy, and the complexities of a non-traditional partnership.

Laura, previously married with two grown children and grandchildren, reflects on her relationship with Izzy, whom she has been with for 16 years. Their journey has required patience and understanding, particularly as Laura managed her close ties to her family while Izzy approached life with different expectations rooted in his experience as a non-parent. We delve into the intricacies of cohabitation without marriage, highlighting how their relationship has thrived through clear communication and mutual respect despite their differing family circumstances.

EPISODE TIME-CODE

4:10 Navigating Family Dynamics

8:45 Embracing Polyamory

30:47 Lessons from Life and Improv

34:46The Role of Trust in Relationships

38:56 Wisdom of Experience

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Izzy shares his perspective, illustrating the tension that can arise when balancing individual desires with the practicalities of shared life. The couple discusses how they created a shared entity in their relationship, recognizing that their individual needs sometimes conflict. They candidly address the challenges they faced and how they overcame them, culminating in their unique framework of coexistence that honors their individuality while allowing for shared dreams.

A significant turning point in their relationship came when Laura embraced the idea of polyamory, which Izzy had been interested in exploring. The two recount their thoughtful journey towards opening up their relationship—how they set parameters, communicated openly about their feelings, and navigated jealousy. Laura recalls the growth in her understanding of Izzy’s needs, leading her to realize that his relationship with another partner could actually enhance her own experience.

WRAPPING UP (PLAYING WITH THE UNEXPECTED)

We also talk through the role of improvisation in their lives, exploring how the principles of applied improv can serve as a valuable tool for navigating uncertainty and change in relationships. Through playful interactions, we illustrate the essence of “yes, and” thinking—tapping into curiosity and openness instead of rigid expectations.

This attitude has allowed Laura and Izzy to adapt to life’s unpredictable nature with humor, resilience, and authenticity.

Laura and Izzy Playing with the Unexpected

Playing with the Unexpected with Laura & Izzy

Resources for You

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About Tessa

Tessa Krone is the engine behind and the face of The Open Nesters.

Tessa holds an MA in Consciousness Studies and is a speaker, coach, program, and journey facilitator & leader, author and, of course, Podcaster.

Her offerings are based on her mission to help people open to their most self-expressed, loving selves. Tessa’s specialties include embodiment from all the senses and elements of our inner and outer lives, ranging from mindfulness, dance, play, and sensory exploration in nature. If she had one superpower, it would be to help people, especially as they age, to live more open-hearted lives.

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