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Healing Our Intimacy Wounds
(The Open Nesters Podcast Season 2 | Episode 51)
Intimacy, Deconstructing Victimhood, How Our Bodies Teach Us
[Tessa] Get ready for a deep conversation about the intimate. We are so fortunate to have Isha Vela with us this week. We cover some complicated ground in our chat. Cards on the table, I turned to Isha at one point when my life got pretty complicated. I can say from personal experience how intuitive she is when it comes to our bodies and how we handle personal intimacy and relating to others.
Healing Our Intimacy Wounds
As complicated as these conversations can get, Isha has a way of just making sense of a hard-to-talk-about topic. I am sure you will get a lot out of this one… and you’ll likely listen to it twice as there is so much good information here. It’s positively… somatic! 😝
relating to the body, especially as distinct from the mind.“patients completed a questionnaire about their somatic and psychological symptoms”
In Isha’s Words
When you’re at war internally, it manifests externally.
We see this in our dysfunctional relationship patterns, in the ways we subtly use power to control, and the ways we neglect to truly be affected by one another. Internally, you attack yourself with judgment and criticism, gaslight your emotional experiences, and don’t say what needs to be said out of fear of being wrong or humiliated.
Or you talk yourself out of what you truly want because deep down you feel like you can’t have it (or don’t deserve it). You distract yourself with whatever’s going to help you avoid the fear of TRULY harnessing your firepower. You may give freely to others but hold back your heart for yourself, ultimately keeping yourself from receiving what you want most: to be witnessed, heard, and loved.
In full ownership of your playful (and fierce) sexual energy;
Capable of expressing your vulnerability and truth;
Embracing your Shadow as part of your authentic expression;
Setting impeccable boundaries and unapologetically protecting your energy;
Connected to the pleasure that’s readily available to you in every moment;
Enjoying cleaner communication and deeper intimacy with the people you care about;
Holding more expansive space for difficult emotions and conversations;
Able to meet life’s challenges with more trust and courage;
Following the flow of intuition to create what you desire;
Using your voice and passion for the issues that matter most to you;
Fully anchored and dropped into the Divine within you.
Resources for You
We want to provide you with support and many many resources for your own Open Nesting Journey. Our resource page has so much to offer as does our private discussion group on Facebook about queerness and other topics of interest:
The Open Nesters Private Facebook Group
- ask to join and we’ll let you in