Rock Your Erotic Boat (with Pamela Madsen)
(The Open Nesters Podcast Episode 46)
Episode 46 – Rock Your Erotic Boat (with Pamela Madsen)
Pamela Madsen is Shameless
[Tessa] I have followed the work of Pamela Madsen for years. She is one of my heroes. What a pleasure to speak with such an open and honest woman who has helped so many thousands of men, women, couples get in touch with their own sexuality.
An Excerpt from the Interview
[So a woman says] “I’m 40 or 50. And I think I still have so much more erotic energy in my body, and I wanna explore that. And, you’ve got the program for that and I’m in.”
We have those women, and then we have the women who are dealing with the ‘adolescence of midlife.’ The body, the body changes. And they’ve been fed the story that menopause is a time of ending. When I always say menoplay… hit that play button.
Menosexual, menoplay, menogorgeous. If women are given the chance to really explore their body in midlife, they may remember themselves as 22 and having an orgasm and then saying, ‘Ooh, I’m too sensitive. Don’t touch me there anymore,’ to a midlife woman who is probably encouraged and shown, and has epicurean therapists working with her, who may find out that she can have 16 orgasms.
Maybe it’s a congenital disorder. Maybe it’s something I learned as an itty-bitty baby. But when I find something wonderful or liberating or even mildly helpful, I can’t keep my mouth shut. Even my mother, the original unfiltered talker, marvels at my compulsion to spill the beans whenever I’m on a mission.
When I was 42, I took a pretty zany voyage from an honest-to-goodness repressed, monogamous, middle-aged, hyper-achieving, chubby woman with two kids to an honest-to-goodness monogamish, middle-aged, accomplished chubby “sex goddess” with two kids.
Once I owned up to my deepest, untapped desires, I discovered a wellspring of happiness and self-confidence inside me that extended to every part of my life. Whoa! I thought. This is incredible! Everyone should know they have the power to experience life in all its richness right now, just as they are. No diets, no plastic surgery, no nothing. Just intact, healthy sexuality.
If I can stop warring with my weight and workaholism, I think most people can. I know that when I stopped denying my hearty and normal sexual appetites, I started losing my uncontrollable urges to overeat, overwork and over-compensate. For the first time, I could relax in my own skin.
Admitting your desires takes a tanker-load of courage, and a rip-stop web of support. That’s what I’m here to provide. That’s my mission. That’s why I wrote SHAMELESS.
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