Are You Securely Attached? With Trevor Mullineaux
(The Open Nesters Episode 24)
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Our Interview with Trevor
We are so pleased to share this interview with therapist, Trevor (Mullineaux) Crow. She sheds a lot of light on us as Open Nesters. That was a lot of fun. She practices what is called Emotionally Focused Therapy (by Sue Johnson). This uses a concept called “attachment theory.” This put the focus on the family of origin. The ideas is that you develop your attachment style from age 0-3. The responsiveness of the caregiver, the environment and your personality type. She defines four attachment styles in our interview:
Chaotic (come to me go away)
Below there is a link to the quiz to help you answer the question – are YOU securely attached?
Trevor Crow is a Certified Executive Coach, Author, Talk Show Host, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), and ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT) and Supervisor.
Trevor’s unique expertise of relationship expert and executive coach positions her to advise family business, executives and companies on solutions for leadership and team building with an eye toward creating more diversity at the senior level.
Trevor’s expertise in relationships is built on her EFT training and her high conflict couples and step family work. Her latest book Blending Families: Merging Households with Kids 8-18, co-authored with Maryann Karinch addresses the trickiest aspects of creating step families. With over 50% of American children live with a non biological parent and divorce rates for second marriages over 60%, helping families blend is one of Trevor’s missions in life.
Trevor believes that our well-being is profoundly affected by the quality of our relationships. Her aphorism “We Help” is supported by her testament, “When our connections with those surrounding us are safe and inclusive, we thrive.” In her 2013 book published by New Horizon Press, Forging Healthy Connections: How Relationships Fight Illness, Aging and Depression, co-authored with Maryann Karinch, Trevor’s theory is proven by science: the healthier our relationships are, the healthier we are physically, living longer and more productively.
Her diverse educational background includes Wellesely College where she received a BA, which then led to a BS from Parson’s School of Design, and then on to Harvard Business School where she earned an MBA. Trevor earned a Master’s degree from Fairfield University in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT), where she serves on the board for the Marriage and Family Therapy Master’s Program. Following her completion from the MFT program at Fairfield, Trevor opened her private practice and earned her licensure. Trevor has recently become a Certified Executive Coach through the Center for Executive Coaching.
Trevor has appeared as a guest speaker on “The Kerri Lee Mayland Show”, “Anderson Cooper”, and “The Bill Cunningham Show”. She has her own talk radio show on revolutionizing relationships and hosts a YouTube Channel series titled “Keeping Connected with Trevor Crow”. Trevor has interviewed numerous modern day intellectuals, scientists, notable psychologists, and authors in the field of relationships.
She currently resides in Connecticut. In her down time Trevor enjoys yoga, lots of hugs from her loved ones, trips to the beach, and winter sports.
The Attachment Style Quiz
Take this quiz to determine your attachment style. Knowing your attachment style is the first step to creating more meaningful connections, feeling valued and developing more harmony in all of your relationships!
You may not be aware of what you had to repress and hide as a child in order to feel safe and have your needs met, but your body doesn’t forget.
Your symptoms are a gift because they show you your blind spots – something you typically aren’t consciously aware of that needs to be addressed.
Your true feelings and needs are now expressing themselves to you through your body and patterns.
Each symptom has a message supporting your expression and fulfillment. There is a clear path for your truest and greatest self!
Resources for You
We want to provide you with support and many many resources for your own Open Nesting Journey. Our resource page has so much to offer as does our private discussion group on Facebook about queerness and other topics of interest:
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Are You Securely Attached?