The Many Kinds of Love that Work with Jim Fleckenstein
(The Open Nesters Episode 22)
About Our Guest, Jim
We could have spoken to Jim for hours. And we will certainly have him back. Like many others, Jim Fleckenstein became a relationship coach and educator because of his own life experiences. After the end of his 25-year marriage in 2000, he put the skills he’d gained from his successful non-profit career and his insatiable curiosity to work on relationships. He created an educational nonprofit to foster new research into relationships. He also began a rigorous self-education process that included reaching out personally to leading researchers.
His efforts quickly bore fruit. His organization ultimately conducted five national conferences on relationships. He merged this organization into another, larger group in 2006 so as to continue his focus on self-education, scientific research, and helping people have successful relationships.
Jim was invited to co-present to a professional audience for the first time in 2002 at the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). He has since been invited to present at seven more AASECT conferences, to the Eastern Region Conference of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, to the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, and to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. He was invited to contribute to the Continuum Complete International Encyclopedia of Sexuality in 2004. In 2015, he was lead author on his first published research paper in the peer-reviewed journal, Sexual and Relationship Therapy. This paper was selected to become a chapter in the 2015 book, Sexuality and Aging. He currently has a paper under review by The Archives of Sexual Behavior. Since 2016, he has been a member of the Editorial Board of The Journal of Positive Sexuality. In addition to his many professional presentations, Jim became a regular volunteer presenter at lay conferences, with nearly 20 appearances reaching hundreds.
Along the way, Jim developed a unique approach to relationships based on proven methods he encountered over his years of study. Ultimately, he formalized this approach as his Affirmative Intimacy™ method. He created The Earth Moved, LLC as a professional home for his coaching and educational efforts. His book, Love That Works: 38 Awesome Hacks for Amazing Relationshipscame out in December, 2019.
You can visit Jim at his website.
Love That Works: 38 Awesome Hacks for Amazing Relationships!
If you struggle with:
- Feeling “lost” in your relationship
- Feeling like your relationship expects too much sacrifice on your part
- Finding that discussions with your partner too often become arguments
- Feeling like you’re not being heard in your relationship
- Finding that communication in your relationship just isn’t happening
- Frequently feeling angry, frustrated, or disappointed about what happens in your relationship
- Wondering whether your relationship is “in trouble”
Then this is a book you’ll want to read!
Jim applies his Affirmative Intimacy ® approach to inspiring quotes from philosophers, clergy, therapists, musicians, authors, and gurus. Each is followed by a concrete action step.
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