Jealousy, Compersion… Loving Without Boundaries with Kitty Chambliss
(The Open Nesters Episode 14)
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In Episode 14 we Meet Kitty Chambliss from Loving without Boundaries.
[Tessa] – Kitty is a coach, podcast host, and author. And let me tell you… simply an amazing woman! Her Loving Without Boundaries has been big inspiration to Amir and me. Kitty interviewed us many months ago just as we were launching our podcast. And I am so thankful for the work that she does, the path that Kitty has paved that has greatly enhanced our work with this Open Nesters Podcast.
A “recovering Catholic” Kitty supports losing the shame and guilt that you may have attached to sex from your upbringing.
I love how Kitty emphasizes each individual’s opportunity to speak their own truth. She shares some very interesting facts about the many people who have decided to pursue an open relationship. She says that this all starts with one’s own value system. What are your “cherished needs.” Once you understand these things about yourself you can begin to live your own authentic life. And if you ever schedule a consultation with Kitty ask her to describe her “Ninja Communication Tools” to help you have a beautiful meaningful conversation with your partner, vs. a drop down drag out fight.
We cover so much ground in this expansive conversation. It is my hope that through this podcast, and Kitty’s wonderful work, you may be able to express compersion (see definition below) in your relationships someday.
Five Jealousy Triggers
Kitty takes us through the things that bring out jealousy in us. These present challenges for most of us when it comes to the people we care deeply about.
- Low Self Worth
- Rational Fear
Lack of empathy is the root of all evil. – Kitty Chambliss
Resources for You
Kitty’s Book: Jealousy Survival Guide
Jealousy can have an enormous impact on some people, so it is no surprise that people (especially those who practice consensual non-monogamy) think, talk, and write about it quite a bit. In “Jealousy Survival Guide”, Kitty Chambliss does the homework for you and collects the best tidbits on life and emotions to give you inspiration and provide tools to gain and practice new skills. Combining her own life experience with these pearls of wisdom, Kitty focuses on jealousy in consensually non-monogamous relationships, what it is, how it expresses, and specific ways to manage it. Kitty’s frank discussion of her own struggles with jealousy and focus on specific skills and techniques — without a shred of blame — makes “Jealousy Survival Guide” a delightfully useful read for anyone struggling with jealousy or consensually non-monogamous relationships and polyamory.
One More Thing
Is polyamory for you? Isn’t that a loaded question! Kitty Chambliss has given us a tool to help us find out if this is focus with her “Polyamory Quiz.” Click here to find out if this open lifestyle might be for you. The Polyamory Quiz.