Evolution, Intimacy (S5 | E216)

[TESSA] In this episode, I sit down with Lara and Michael Blackin, visionaries behind Temple in the Trees, a vibrant new community center located in Leesburg, Virginia. We delve deep into the philosophy of open nesting—a refreshing take on the empty nester experience, inviting listeners to redefine what this life stage can mean. The Blackins embrace a mindset of unfettered growth and exploration, highlighting how their mid-life journey has been full of new relationships, passions, and adventures. Evolution, Intimacy

As we dive deeper into their personal journeys, Lara and Michael reflect on their blended family dynamics, parenting six children—from a 27-year-old to a high school senior—while navigating the complexities of sibling relationships and individual identities. They candidly address the challenges of estrangement within their family, particularly the difficult path of one of their sons who has stepped away. Through this heartfelt discussion, we explore themes of grief, acceptance, and the importance of honoring one’s personal journey while also nurturing connections.

The conversation takes a poignant turn as we cover Lara’s struggles with her eyesight, a significant challenge she is currently facing due to a growth affecting her optic nerve. She eloquently describes her journey of adapting to this new reality, finding strength and creativity as she navigates what it means to experience vision—both physically and intuitively. Michael shares his perspective, discussing how their relationship has deepened through these trials and the ways their intimacy has evolved, emphasizing the power of connection beyond traditional notions of physicality.

We also touch on their recent move to New Orleans, where they are in the process of establishing a new branch of their community—Temple by the Water. Amidst the logistical challenges of a cross-town life, both Lara and Michael express excitement about laying down roots in a new city while continuing to foster their expansive community spirit. Their joint ambitions to host creative events and retreats speak to their commitment to artistic expression and personal development.

In wrapping up our conversation, the Blackins impart invaluable insights for listeners navigating their own life transitions. They challenge the notion of identity solely tied to parenthood, advocating instead for an embrace of individualism and active participation in life. The underlying message promotes a sense of participation and connection, encouraging everyone to cultivate relationships that nourish self, community, and family.

This episode encapsulates the complex layers of transition, poignancy, and resilience that define the open nester experience. By embracing both joy and grief alike, Lara and Michael exemplify how life transitions can serve as catalysts for deeper self-discovery and collective growth. Their story is a testament to the beauty of forging meaningful connections—one that resonates deeply with anyone looking to redefine their journey in the face of change.