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Disability, Aging and Love Potion Number 9
with Dr. Mitchell Tepper
(Season 2 | Episode 85)
[Tessa] Our fourth entry in this Sensuality, Sexuality and Aging Month on The Open Nesters Podcast. From our conversation:
[Dr. Tepper] You don’t have to break your neck to be a great lover, but you could learn a lot from somebody who has.
So when you’re forced to kind of examine your sexual life and rebuild it and not to be so genitally focused… it opens up a wide world of possibilities. What was important for a peak sexual experience that I found for my research, well over 20 years ago, is the concept of trust and safety. When someone was with somebody that they trusted and they felt safe with, that opened them up.
They were able to be vulnerable to experiences. And that led to a feeling of connectedness and that connectedness led to a sense of pleasure and even orgasm for people who had not experienced orgasm before.
If we take sex too seriously – you know, “I couldn’t get it up. I couldn’t keep it up. I couldn’t ejaculate !!”
Then we start feeling like a failure, and then this becomes a negative thing and something we avoid. When couples over 50 stop having sex, it’s generally because the guy has experienced sexual erectile dysfunction. And he begins to lose his confidence and avoid sex. And then that creates a dynamic, you know, where the partner thinks it’s something with them. And then the sex life slowly just fades.
From Spinal Cord Injury To Sex Doctor
I’m Dr. Mitchell Tepper. And I’m a Sexuality Educator and Coach dedicated to helping people with disabilities and health professionals grasp the full potential of sexual response and expression post-injury or illness. My sexual consultations and strategies are based on more than 30 years of personal and professional experience.
Persons with a disability are equipped with the confidence, resources, and techniques needed to rediscover a fulfilling intimate life. Health professionals walk away from my sessions feeling educated and empowered to implement innovative procedures in their practice.
I’ve had to overcome many personal challenges before arriving at this place of sexual confidence.
Dr. Mitchell Tepper is called on regularly by the media and has been featured on CNN, Discovery, PBS, Huffington Post Live, and in popular press, including The New York Times, Chicago Tribune, USA Today, Good Housekeeping, Cosmopolitan, GQ, and AARP.
Below are snippets and links to our most recent Sex and Sensuality episodes.
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In this episode with Heather Hundhausen we further explore the concept of Existential Kink for personal growth. The Open Nesters Podcast.
Robyn Vogel from Come Back to Love, is a wise Open Nester offering insights and advice, especially for single women.
Today we deal with jealousy, social media & insecurities, and the importance of gratitude and self-awareness in relationships. Viva Monogamy.
Today we explore open relationships and non-monogamy, emphasizing communication, boundaries and relationship fluidity.
Infidelity and the Empty Nest | In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we hear from Jenn and Gordon: swinging lifestyles to polyamory.
Resources for You
We want to provide you with support and many many resources for your own Open Nesting Journey. Our resource page has so much to offer as does our private discussion group on Facebook about queerness and other topics of interest:
About Tessa
Tessa Krone is the engine behind and the face of The Open Nesters.
Tessa holds an MA in Consciousness Studies and is a speaker, coach, program and journey facilitator & leader, author and, of course, Podcaster.
Her offerings are based in her mission to help people open to their most self-expressed, loving selves. Tessa’s specialties include embodiment from all the senses and elements of our inner and outer lives, ranging from mindfulness, dance, play, and sensory exploration in nature. If she had one superpower, it would be to help people, especially as they age, to live more open hearted lives.
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